When conversations get overwhelming, shutting down can feel like the only option. This post explores why stonewalling happens and how couples can use self-soothing to break the silence and reconnect.

Defensiveness keeps couples stuck in conflict and feeling unheard. This post explores how to recognize defensiveness and use responsibility instead to change the tone of your communication.

Contempt shows up as sarcasm, eye rolls, and name-calling—but underneath is often pain and resentment. This post offers practical ways to shift contempt into appreciation and reconnection.

Criticism is a common but harmful conflict habit that erodes connection. Learn what it sounds like, how it starts, and how to shift toward healthier communication using a gentle start-up.

The Four Horsemen—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—can derail even the strongest relationships. Learn what they are, why they matter, and how to shift toward healing connection.