What If Intimacy Has Changed So Much You're Wondering About Divorce?
Every relationship changes over time.
But sometimes, the changes feel so deep, so painful, that one or both partners start to wonder:
"Is this still the marriage I want? Is there enough left to rebuild?"
When intimacy—emotional or physical—feels broken or unreachable, it’s natural to start asking the hardest questions about your future.
You don’t have to face those questions alone.
Discernment counseling offers a structured, compassionate space to slow down, get clear, and make wise decisions about your marriage.
When Changes in Intimacy Lead to Doubt
It’s not just about frequency or desire.
It’s about feeling emotionally invisible.
It’s about feeling like strangers in the same house.
It’s about wondering if you even know how to reach each other anymore.
When intimacy fades, it often signals:
Unresolved emotional injuries
Longstanding resentment or withdrawal
Erosion of trust or emotional safety
Life transitions that created distance
Unspoken grief, anger, or unmet needs
Left unspoken, these shifts can build into walls that feel impossible to scale.
How Discernment Counseling Helps
Discernment counseling isn’t couples therapy.
It’s a short-term, structured process designed for couples where one or both partners are unsure if they want to stay together.
In discernment counseling, you will:
Slow down and name what’s happening without rushing to fix it
Understand how the marriage arrived at this point
Clarify each partner’s contributions to the current patterns
Explore what would need to change—for real—for healing to be possible
Gain clarity about whether to move toward repair or separation
It’s not about convincing anyone to stay.
It’s about making sure any decision is made with clarity, courage, and compassion.
"You can't heal what you can't name.
Discernment Counseling
gives couples the space to
be honest, clear, and brave."
What If One Partner Is "Leaning Out"?
In many couples considering discernment counseling, one partner is "leaning out"—uncertain or ready to leave—while the other is "leaning in"—hopeful for repair.
Discernment counseling honors both partners' experiences and needs.
It creates a structured, safe space to explore what's real—without blame, coercion, or shame.
Clarity Before Commitment
When intimacy fades, it’s tempting to either stay stuck in silent pain or leap into irreversible decisions.
Discernment counseling offers a third way: clarity before commitment.
If you’re standing at a crossroads in your marriage, wondering whether healing is possible—or whether it's time to let go—we’re here to help you find your way with steadiness and support.